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The press trampled on my privacy. Here's how I took back my story | Kate Stone

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After a horrific accident put her in the tabloid headlines, Kate Stone found a way to take control of her narrative -- and help prevent others from losing their privacy, too. Learn how she reclaimed her story in this personal talk infused with humor and courage. Check out more TED Talks: http://www.ted.com The TED Talks channel features the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more. Follow TED on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/TEDTalks Like TED on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TED Subscribe to our channel: https://www.youtube.com/TED
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Jared Begg (19 days ago)
not to get into the pronouns/gender discussion others have commented on.... whatever one feels about that, the statement that a a gender transition is LESS interesting than a shoe size is blatantly out of touch with reality. whether you're progressive or traditional regarding gender and transition, it's still, quite obviously, an interesting issue. i'm amazed that statement got applause and laughter rather than confusion.
Jared Simpson (29 days ago)
'I'm transgender, its not a big deal.' Lets get the other half of the world on this page.
bob bob (1 month ago)
So the Sun thinks it's okay to violate privacy, but not okay to get mad if your privacy was violated? It's not "bigoted" to stand up for yourself against someone who sees you as a headline and not a human being. Just cause she was sneaky about it and polite, doesn't mean she wasn't trying to seek revenge.
Christine L.M (1 month ago)
If ‘kindness Ninjas’ like you are at their table, why are they still trying to ruin lives I wonder. Money!
oldgranny athlete (1 month ago)
Tbh, i reckon the daily mail is more of the uk's fox news than the sun. It focuses way more on politics than the sun, which whilst it will do a bit of politics, it cares way more about celebrity stories
Zesterix TV (1 month ago)
I thought she was a women at first with a messed up voice due to surgery.
jalt_03 (1 month ago)
I love this! Good on Dr. Stone for advocating for herself :)
Angie Murry (1 month ago)
Wow! I got gored in the leg by my own goat three weeks ago and I thought I was a trooper! I’m so glad you are doing well. 💜
Shamsul Alam (1 month ago)
Good topic
Anodyne Melody (1 month ago)
This was a powerful talk, all of us on Earth would benefit from "identifying out inner bigotry" and working to overcome it. She transformed anger into kindness and the result was society taking a microscope to everyone's own mistakes and collaborating to make journalism more ethical, and the world a better place. Relating to and trying to understand our adversaries is one of the most difficult processes to begin and it's even harder to finish it successfully, but the potential benefits include preventing conflicts of every scale and intensity, including armed conflict. We should all be thanking this woman!
prysmcat (1 month ago)
Thank you, Ms Stone, for having the strength not to lash out in blind anger under provocation like that, and to bring about something constructive from it - and then to share it with us here, in a culture in which far too many people consider voicing their own narrow and destructive perspective more important than simply treating you with respect.
Ramza Beoulves (1 month ago)
Great talk, great person
David (1 month ago)
That's not a woman, that's a man. Sick
Elmews (1 month ago)
I’m reporting you for harassment
Ramza Beoulves (1 month ago)
Very much a woman but with twice your balls
Ray Ray (1 month ago)
That's a dude
urbanrat84 (1 month ago)
I need to take back my story from a person in my life who is busily rewriting my past. Good message thank you
Optical Clarity (1 month ago)
Did someone claim you raped them 36 years ago with zero evidence & zero corroboration & then the press start calling for a kangaroo court, no due process & no presumption of innocence & the slander and defame you?
jd (1 month ago)
How is it that I immediately could tell this is a man?
Ramza Beoulves (1 month ago)
Joy Haria (1 month ago)
if we are a billion lightyears away from earth and we see earth from there will we see earth from a billion years ago
make0urday66 (1 month ago)
Terrifying, absolutely terrifying.
R A R E V A L U E O0 (1 month ago)
journals were trying to get not get a lawsuit ?
MissLilyputt (1 month ago)
We need to support good writers and not click baity, sensationalist or simply plagiarized writing. There are so many people who say they’re tired of this kid of writing and reporting and yet that’s the most popular. Terrible writing is promoted on aggregate websites, on social media, and by word of mouth. When we decide to stop clicking on crap and use that time instead to read well thought out articles and essays then there will be a change for the better. The law of supply and demand applies to even this.
Anodyne Melody (1 month ago)
First we need to educate people about media literacy, and improve literacy of all kinds in general. But, yes I agree completely! :)
revisionfour (1 month ago)
Do you and all but don't expect everyone is willing to call someone her with he parts and he vocal cords. Humans are naturally wired to distinguish genders. It's hard for many to tell the brain she when the brain says he. It's fighting your built in logic system wired to detect genders.
Elmews (1 month ago)
Her name is Kate Stone. A woman’s name. She has long hair and is wearing a blouse and makeup. It’s very obvious that she’s a woman.
Ramza Beoulves (1 month ago)
Trans don't expect people to get it right all the time, the bare minimum is to use the right pronoun once/if you know the person's gender
Kaito McVey (1 month ago)
This was excellent.
Ivory Miller (1 month ago)
Yes Kate! You go girl!
freespeech ordeath (1 month ago)
Title had my hopes up thinking TED was going to address the hypocrisy and insanity of what the media has become and instead its a dude thinking he's a woman. Wtf
invincible will (1 month ago)
#Special & big ""Thanks"" for including ""HINDI"" in caption..
David Peters (1 month ago)
There is another scenario where people of a certain ilk write "inappropriate and negative" comments … calculated to influence people who read them … have you had a look at your NHS medical records lately? I told my practice nurse I was into Yoga and Mindfulness … and jokingly said I was: "Trying to reboot my brain". She left a comment in my medical records … "He says he is trying to reboot his brain." … no mention of Yoga and Mindfulness. I slipped over and broke my whilst whilst walking on a muddy common … the hospital note read: "Broken wrist … dishevelled". I had a minor, low-key disagreement with a nurse at a hospital clinic … my GP was told that I had had "an argument with the staff".
BrazilianBikini38 (1 month ago)
5:26 "they asked me to join the committee that regulates the press". In Great Britain that says it all
Dajana Darling (1 month ago)
Wow. What a grown-up reaction from your side. And such a rewarding outcome. I'm happy for you <3
Jeremy Harden (1 month ago)
That has to be a man
Elmews (1 month ago)
She says right in the talk that she’s transgender. Did you even watch the video before posting this bigot comment?
Anita X (1 month ago)
People like you kinda prove her point. So many idiots in this world.
glamour (1 month ago)
Old women have sagging skin too
TestMeatDollSteak (1 month ago)
She sounds like a man...
Elmews (1 month ago)
Jeremy Harden such bigotry
Ramza Beoulves (1 month ago)
Sandra, That's why there are people trying to educate you on the subject so you can help build a better world. There's a huge difference between benig unsure what pronoun to use and insisting on using the wrong one after being explicitely told that she is now a woman. Trans go through a lot and have a much harder shell than you seem to think. As far as I know, all they're asking is the slightest bit of respect as every eprson should expect.
Sandra (1 month ago)
Jstarstudios so complicated - I think transgendered people will need to do a lot of work in therapy to not be triggered if someone calls them by their original gender. Because it will always happen. Because not everyone views this in the same way. Just reality.
Sandra (1 month ago)
Anita X an idiot because they said that she sounds like a man?! Read the thread.
Anita X (1 month ago)
People like you kinda prove her point. So many idiots in this world.
Isaac The Fallen Apple (1 month ago)
What an incredible woman
MajkaSrajka (1 month ago)
Whan an incredible person.
Space (1 month ago)
L DK (1 month ago)
Not the video for it, but yes.
Bree Evans (1 month ago)
Trampled in the throat? Get out of here, you ironically are ignoring everything she says because she's trans, which is what she's literally fighting against.
DURMUŞ BAYSAL (1 month ago)
Indeed, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and forbids immorality and bad conduct and oppression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. (The Noble Qur'an. Surah An Nahl. Verse:90) Know that the life of this world is but amusement and diversion and adornment and boasting to one another and competition in increase of wealth and children (The Noble Qur'an. Surah Hadid. Verse:20) Every soul will taste death. Then to Us will you be returned. And those who have believed and done righteous deeds - We will surely assign to them of Paradise [elevated] chambers beneath which rivers flow, wherein they abide eternally. Excellent is the reward of the [righteous] workers. (The Noble Quran. Surah Al Ankabut. Verse 57-58) Listen to the voice of the Noble Quran. Maybe your life will be changed If God allows. French : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lVY8pwx9B74 English: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Omh4oG8T_Fw German: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EXWTxB6oS6I
DURMUŞ BAYSAL (1 month ago)
+Eadgyt Adba Francis Bacon tells us: Having little knowledge about science makes the man an atheist. Having a deep knowledge of science makes a man who believes in God.
DURMUŞ BAYSAL (1 month ago)
+Eadgyt Adba That is Allah, your Lord; there is no deity except Him, the Creator of all things, so worship Him. And He is Disposer of all things. ( The Noble Quran. Surah Al An'am. Verse 102) www.quran.com
DURMUŞ BAYSAL (1 month ago)
+Eadgyt Adba Had there been within the heavens and earth gods besides Allah, they both would have been ruined. So exalted is Allah, Lord of the Throne, above what they describe. (The Noble Quran. Surah Al Anbya. Verse 22)
Eadgyt Adba (1 month ago)
Hahaha Good one!
DURMUŞ BAYSAL (1 month ago)
+Eadgyt Adba Only smart people know how to love. So you've been deprived of love for the rest of your life. The source of all love is our God. Go back to your Lord and love him, and He will guide you to the right way. So after death, the Day of Resurrection, Become one of the great reward of your Lord. "Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best. Indeed, your Lord is most knowing of who has strayed from His way, and He is most knowing of who is [rightly] guided. (The Noble Quran. Surah An Naml. Verse 125) www.quran.com
Oddsors (1 month ago)
"But don't you think it's our job as journalists to sensationalize a story?" I guess that type of thinking makes sense in the clickbait-era, but I'd prefer less sensationalism personally.
shadfurman (11 days ago)
(Most) news agencies are companies, they have customers and a profit motive. If people decide they want facts over sensationalism, they will get that. Most people prefer their flavor of sensationalism that supports their ideological world view.
Evo99 (1 month ago)
They may be interrelated but there are important differences between governement, health, education, news and bussinesses. We don't really know what nature is up to and don't really know what the return might be from the time of treating someone. And how well a person is developed depends on environmental factors including informations received. Sensationalism is like a drug, so it's not what well informed customers really want. Even in a bussiness sense, there are more macro growth in supplying news that people really want and need.
TheGalacticGrizzly (1 month ago)
Tabloids and paparazzi existed long before the internet came about
MissLilyputt (1 month ago)
It’s the law of supply and demand at work. As long as people are clicking on and sharing this kind of content then there will be more created. It’s what people actually want because that’s the crap they choose to consume.
Optical Clarity (1 month ago)
What a Sad commentary on the state of so-called journalism today... that the journalist job is to sensationalize? Have these idiots even heard of journalistic ethics?
Karl Rosenbaum (1 month ago)
God bless your steps Miss Stone. You are so brave for sharing your story with the world. I'm sure you are helping a lot of people.
Le Boi (1 month ago)
its a tranny
Dani l (1 month ago)
Great talk!!
물고기 (1 month ago)
Our tabloid press are deplorable, all of them are bad but the s*n and the mail in particular are truly evil publication which have caused devastating harm to society this past decade. Fucking mad story too a bloody stag ?!
Loi PhamNgoc (1 month ago)
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Alpha Strength (1 month ago)
Love the background from the stage
Lee Olsson (1 month ago)
That’s a lovely message. Thank you.
J Black (1 month ago)
This why we need Trump #MAGA
Anodyne Melody (15 days ago)
+Claire Conover When I wrote "Don't feed the troll OP", I was referring to the OP as the troll --> "troll OP" = "troll-OP" or "OP-troll".
Claire Conover (16 days ago)
Anodyne Melody j black is the OP. how do you not know that?
Anodyne Melody (1 month ago)
Don't feed the troll OP. If he's not trolling, then l feel sorry for the OP for so firmly believing in lies, misinformation, and propaganda distributed by a pathological liar and clinically-diagnosable narcissist who actually cares very little for his own supporters, I mean his first big action was passing a corporate tax cut that will eventually disintegrate the federal budget that goes toward taking care of and defending his own political base/constituency. Trump is only looking out for one guy, himself, and that is abundantly clear to anyone who actually stop and thinks about the actions he takes every day. @J Black can you explain your rationale for why you believe "this" is "why we need Trump"? Or are just trolling to get a rise out of people because you take pleasure in seeing people get upset online?
Gaf Hadly (1 month ago)
Are you completely delusional? Trump LIVES for media sensationalism. He built his whole campaign on it - "lock her up", "build the wall", mocking disabled people, locking kids up in cages, etc, etc,. Short messages for dumb people like you to be able to digest. If from this talk you got that we need more trump you are quite stupid. The message is actually the exact opposite.
Claire Conover (1 month ago)
TheRealRobs E ... and trump’s never criticized a democrat. oh wait, he has! again, your gullible mind is consuming & regurgitating someone else’s talking points. you must have no confidence in your own intelligence, since you obviously prefer to parrot out somebody else.
Jens S. (1 month ago)
Just wonderful!
nnaenae (1 month ago)
Beware of your inner bigot. Yes, thank you for that nugget of wisdom.
TheGalacticGrizzly (1 month ago)
Love her positive attitude!
Lirio2u (1 month ago)
Thank you Dr. Stone for teaching us to listen and to reply with kindness and patience.
Kyota Tsushima (1 month ago)
Ma näen ...
Jazzy Baby (1 month ago)
She sound like a dude
Anita X (1 month ago)
People like you kinda prove her point. So many idiots in this world.
DEUS VULT (1 month ago)
+SharpOB lmao
marlou9645 (1 month ago)
Jazzy Baby You can erase your comment
SharpOB (1 month ago)
He is a dude. A mentally ill dude.
Claire Conover (1 month ago)
who cares? she survived... that’s the important part.
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+Gamer 49 😂
Gamer 49 (1 month ago)
I like Ted, but why would I subscribe to a gossip channel?

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