When your job hinges on how well you talk to people, you learn a lot about how to have conversations — and that most of us don't converse very well. Celeste Headlee has worked as a radio host for decades, and she knows the ingredients of a great conversation: Honesty, brevity, clarity and a healthy amount of listening. In this insightful talk, she shares 10 useful rules for having better conversations. "Go out, talk to people, listen to people," she says. "And, most importantly, be prepared to be amazed."
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Great info, we all need to hear this I'm going to listen again. The biggest block to the truth is the assumption that I have it. We need to open our minds and listen to each other. Let's let the truth surface, and find it.
I found TED Talk speeches really cognitive!
And it's real problems these days: we don't listening to each other!
I talk to people that I don't like, I talk to people that I really like and it would be really good to have a good conversation with both. So i found this discuss really interesting to listen.
I got that all rules about nice conversation I knew before were false. I tried to learn a lot of gestures which will show person I'm talking to that I'm absolutely interested in conversation. But "There is no reason to show how you paying attention if you are in fact paying attention" what is completely right. So being completely in conversation is main stuff we should to know about it.
Thank You for such an amazing speech!
I watched this a few years ago, and to this day, I still remember her saying that listening involves truly listening and forgetting about what you wanted to say. While I still am not perfect at that, it is so true. I am very interested in what others have to say, but I am also very interested in conveying my aligned points of view. However, both REALLY cannot be done at once no matter how hard we try.
This is a really good Ted Talk! I can especially learn from this because I'm an introvert who suffers from social anxiety. I don't really know how to have effective conversations(in person) with other people. I usually just give them a short talk and walk away. I think this Ted Talk will really help me learn how to better communicate with other people.
Yeah, so....I believe the Civil War was as divided as our nation has ever been. I am so tired of hearing so called "educated" "intelligentsia" say that it's never been this bad. It's sad. Facebook isn't a great example. Facebook is really the movie "Idiocracy" in real life.
Celeste's talk has changed my life! I am a full time investigator and her excellent insights into the human interaction that occurs during a conversation has had an incredible impact in every aspect of my life...EVERYONE is an expert in something-even if it's only themselves...!
"Frankly people don't care about the years, the names, the dates all those details your struggling to come up with in your mind...they don't care, what they care about is you." That really resonated with me, I have to rememberer next time when I'm doing exactly that.
Very interesting and delightfully presented. Important information for public consumption and so true and to the point. I just wish she could tell everyone around me. Thanks again for a delightful delivery of your presentation.
I'm not good at keep the flow going. However, I found a statement that helps a lot when someone is in need of someone else to talk to, you don't know what to say or you don't have any advice:
"Tell me more."
People light up with just those three words and they'll love you for it.
Loved this, but I disagree that some of those old tools – specifically, eye contact, nodding, and repeat back – should be tossed out. In addition to not listening, we’ve become accustomed to others not listening to us and we need that feedback. Hopefully, if you are listening, the other person will know but it can help a lot to give them proof. Trying to show people that you hear them can even help you listen.
When I was younger, I had a terrible habit of raising my voice at the end of a statement as if it were a question? And ending statements with the phrase, “y’know?” I ended those habits when I realized that I did them because I felt that I wasn’t being listened to. I was less apt to do those things if people were giving me non-verbal cues and repeating back parts of what I said.
Now I have a 13 year old who I am trying to teach how to listen and have a conversation (I sent her a link to this video). I worry that she’s going to have problems out there in the world when conversing with people who don’t love her unconditionally like I do, and aren’t as fascinated by everything on her mind (and believe me, she can bore me!) as I am. First steps: eye contact, nodding, and repeating back. At least if you’re trying to do those things, you’re more apt to actually listen as well!
People walk away from me on 2 grounds: a). When I have something to say; and b). When I listen. People don't walk away on 1 ground: it is what the late psychologist Carl Rogers called "psychological contact." Others call it "rapport" and still others call it "chemistry." In some cases it might be said, "it was like we have known each other our whole lives." Some people, like this speaker, can do this with a lot of people, in this some 6 million on Youtube. Call it what you may, but conversation that matches sitting on the front porch with your best friend kind of stuff, is hard from some of us mere mortals to come by, no matter who many books and speeches we attend.
She gives some good advice, especially the listening part. But her conclusion didn't really resonate with me because it sounded like an iteration of "get gud", only in the context of conversations. "Be like me, (I'm a great conversationalist), listen and be interested." We're not you. And we will never be you. All we can do is work with what emotions we have available to us. Just rubs me the wrong way when people assume, "If I can do it, you can do it too." That's an assumption, not a fact.
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As a child, there was a portrait in our family home in Paris that I always loved. Today, it’s known as Maya with Doll – but to me it was just a portrait of my mother, albeit a remarkable one. “Your grandfather was a painter,” she would say, whenever the subject of the canvas, one of many that hung around the house, came up in discussion. It was only when I began school, and whispers about my heritage started to follow me, that I realised what an understatement that was. My grandfather was far more than a painter. He was the defining figure of 20th-century art – and, as I would learn later from years of academic study, a true genius. It was a revelation that would shape the course of my life in many ways. When Picasso died – in 1973, the year before I was born – he left behind 45,000 works, not to mention personal objects and correspondence.