When your job hinges on how well you talk to people, you learn a lot about how to have conversations — and that most of us don't converse very well. Celeste Headlee has worked as a radio host for decades, and she knows the ingredients of a great conversation: Honesty, brevity, clarity and a healthy amount of listening. In this insightful talk, she shares 10 useful rules for having better conversations. "Go out, talk to people, listen to people," she says. "And, most importantly, be prepared to be amazed."
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1. Don't multitask. (4:27)
2. Don't pontificate. (4:50)
3. Use open ended questions. (6:02)
4. Go with the flow. (6:39)
5. If you don't know, say that you don't know. (7:26)
6. Don't equate your experience with their. (7:46)
7. Try not to repeat yourself. (8:26)
8. Stay out of the wits. (8:46)
9. Listen. (9:08)
10. Be brief. (10:29)
so..when was it not right to choose your friends and your spouse based on what "you believe"???? Off the bat Celeste would not have a calm conversation with me. If I am a Christian, would I marry a satanist???? I don't know any Christian who would! I don't know any satanist who would marry a Christian - sister Mary...we gravitate towards people with like beliefs, and realizing that we "live" in a world with people who have polarizing beliefs - I don't have to friend them or marry them to be civil and live/work with them. She's saying we have to compromise??? Why do we have to "compromise" our values and what we believe just to have a conversation??? If this is a "you better tolerate me or else" videos like it's sounding in the first minute and a half - I'm outta!
Most women need to take notice of this, as far as I'm concerned women are no better at doing more than one thing at a time than men they just WANT to do more than one thing at a time but that means they still neglect more than one thing at a time and its rude if theyre on social media conversing so please ladies have the respect to pay proper attention when youre in conversation on media as you would in person.
When people do start to listen to others, they should try to avoid DISTRACTIONS such as using their phones and/or having random thoughts & avoid INTERRUPTIONS unless its necessary because it just annoys me when others would do both of these when I am talking to them.
Really thought this would be interesting but a middle aged person immediately starting off a talk about the reasons why we're having bad conversations by blaming the young using technology is getting really boring. Personally found myself without anyone around me who I connected with even after trying all the things she later suggests and it was only through technology and using it FOR better conversations and connections and learning about people other than those around me or in my bubble - that I became more aware, open and toleratnt of different people.
I had a question, what if I can be the person like that, but my friend doesn't, I don't feel being care in the conversation or being listened by my friends. and every time our conversation just doesn't make me feel being understood, and the truth is I cannot ask everybody to be a good listener, am I just have to give up the friend?
Cammie Hong Yes. Our friends are a reflection of you. Though understand that this is the goal after which you have known a person.
You have put effort into tolerating their habits, but have not seen change, nor have they themselves tried being open-minded to you. You are wasting your time with this person that you speak of.
I'm glad other users have summarized, because I turned it off after the third meaningless and unsupported statistic. If you want people to listen to what others say, others have to say something meaningful.
Actually there are lots of people with disabilities that make them seem like they're not paying attention when they are, and for these many people learning how to show you're paying attention is crucial.
I'm not a Gabby person ., So I loose intrest real quick when talking to a person if I notice they are not listening to me , they are just waiting to speak .
Also very distracting - a thing that some women do ( never had a guy do this yet anyway ) as I'm speaking to someone and looking at them and they are moving their mouths (as if they are mirroring me ) sometimes not even silently , what in the world is that about ?
Well, to be perfectly honest, in my humble opinion, of course without offending anyone who thinks differently from my point of view, but also by looking into this matter in a different perspective and without being condemning of one's view's and by trying to make it objectified, and by considering each and every one's valid opinion, I honestly believe that I completely forgot what I was going to say. 🤔
I have that one friend who always cuts me off mid-sentence because I am a slow speaker (English is my second language). Most of the time I find that really annoying and every time I'm like "Will you ever even let me finish my sentence?"
Yupp we shouldn’t be a multitasker because sometimes we stuck in between whole works and couldn’t complete one of them atleast. If we are not good multitasker then dont go for it guys . Rather than that focus on single task and u can give ur good . Then go for other task .
I am so excited to apply what I’ve just learned . I would always say, “ I just love people!” But in reality , I haven’t. I have not been a good listener . I can now truly love people by showing interest in what they are saying and forget about any distractions that may come in my mind. Thank you for this! May God bless you as you help other people love people the way they should!
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