What keeps us happy and healthy as we go through life? If you think it's fame and money, you're not alone – but, according to psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, you're mistaken. As the director of 75-year-old study on adult development, Waldinger has unprecedented access to data on true happiness and satisfaction. In this talk, he shares three important lessons learned from the study as well as some practical, old-as-the-hills wisdom on how to build a fulfilling, long life.
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+faisal omar God will reveal who He is truly is when one seeks for Him, so that they will find Him. To cry out to God with words as God who are you and what's my purpose. God is a big God who came near to us, who reached out to us as the great Saviour from our sins, who if only you call upon Him, and you shall be saved
My parents led an examplary life. Struggles but steady in their morals. Always helping and caring for others. But life has not turned good for them. People whom they had obliged do not care to even keep in touch or call them. Yes relations keep a person young but it is not one sided wish. People whom you love should love you back. Which normally doesn't happen. Relations are business..have to be profitable. So my deduction is only people who are diplomatic who know how to juggle people's feelings and always believe in 'survival of self' are healthy wealthy and happy.
I think we can make our life happy by choosing the goal of our life and strive hard to fulfill that.
Allah said to the messenger!
Say! my job description, customs, my life and my death are to reform the society means the nourishment of the whole mankind.
Such efforts give us happy life.
Best life advice: don’t stress about anything! When something comes your way find a way to handle and deal with it! 2nd best life advice: self -care!! I cannot stress this enough. DO YOU!! 3rd best life advice: Enjoy the simple things in life.. live in the present moment.
Reasons that I have learned about life, is by how you are willing to choose what you want to do, how, and why. Also, life is always complicated, but by our shared experiences and wisdom, we can help brighten our pain, future, and our afterlife of how we perceive life ourselves.
I think that being alone will keep us healthy and happier , no dealing with stupied ,angry,negativity,missunderstanding people and you know what most od the time when i hang out with people i really feel bad,impty and stupied .. i prefer setting home ,meditate ,making money to travel the whole world,eat delecious food, reading and reading and reading why will i feel lonelt while im reading and living happy bymyslef haa?? sorry harfard😐👍
evolutionary trait. since the beginnings of mankind we relied upon each other to survive. bigger communities with good relations meant longer and more quality life and bigger chance for survival of children to adult age. it's hard coded in us
I've been on my own for over 50 yrs. and my dr. says I have the health of a 35 yr. old. I'm 67 and can't stand being around ppl.. just more bs to scare ppl.. ppl who are doing great on their own HORSESHIT to this.
I'm always alone and feel unhappy. Maybe through my childhood and teen, i undorwent unhappy family and my parents's education, as result, i'm afraid of getting touch with peoples, i just live in my whole own life, i was depress until now.
Thanks for this valuable video because of many meaningful messages
I am sorry but most of this talk seemed to be common sense to me, but what I disagree with is his implication that everyone has relationships that just need more work or different angles to rejuvenate them. He is forgetting that so many people are yearning to have relationships, whether friends, or lovers and can't find them. As many in the comments point out, who wants shallow acquaintances just to say you have "friends? True friends and family are more rare than you would think, and if they are not found, kept, and nurtured, you lose them very fast. Lastly, it may just be me, but whenever I see "friends" portrayed on TV, it inevitably reverts to some deception, backstabbing, or behind the back insult - is that really friendship these days?
похоже что спикер не совершенно осознает что прячется за желанием людей средств: это независимость, это безопасность, это здоровье, это образование, это жажда сделать счастливыми свою семью.... Может быть он сам не достигнул таких высот будто его коллеги, вот он и оправдывает себя семьёй.
какие длительные дела лицезрела я: отравление жизни товарищ другу с момента когда существование лишь началась и должна светиться всеми красками и до попросту доживания дней собственных. Нет, это не были мои предки. Мой папа спозаранку погиб и понимаете я задумывалась это был наилучший заворот событий, этак будто он был пьяницей и не понятно что бы было с нами будь он живой. Я говорю о родственниках, знакомых и попросту соседях. Поэтому мой умозаключение: лучше быть одному чем с кем попало. Да, я может быть обесцениваю дела, однако если уж гласить о любви, то это должна быть влюбленность с обоих сторон, а не терпение 1-го относительно другого. Поэтому я считаю что быть в отношениях только бы не быть одиноким - это не панацея
my grandfather lived passed 100. hated everybody and was always lonely. he had no relationship with anyone because he hated everyone lol. Smoked and drank a lot till 102. these studies prove nothing. No lessons are ever learned. If anything the message is deliberately distorted. read a book about the longest living people on earth are the people in isolation from society and relating relationships.
The longest study on human happiness... With 700... Men. MEN. Wtf!!! How can you generalize this study and tell us that this and that is what makes people happy when you did your study on MEN! And no one is talking about that very important fact! I'm so upset
Not just because the person is isolated to others means the person is sad or have a bad life. Some ppl tend to be alone because they enjoy being alone or they’re already happy on what they have. So you mean that if the person has 30 dogs and don’t have friends or socialization it means he has a bad life? No ppl have their happiness in their own way. That’s why every single ppl are unique. Also that’s why that study is up until now and not yet finished. Ppl are evolving Lol.
I'm gonna have the better looks on life after watching and hearing his words. Such an important matter that I need to look back and change. Establishing the good relationships is the best way to enjoy my own life. Thank you so much <3
English Muffin Thank you for your care. It’s not that simple when you overanalyze every decision you made and every you are about to make. You are always checking yourself, anxiety just won’t let you behave naturally and it’s much harder among people... When I’m alone I feel at least a bit stable and calm.
Patrik Šlégr no you dont lol. You created that mentality because you experienced bad things and that made you think that you need to stay alone in order to be happy. Please go outside, travel and love yourself.
Thank Jehovah the god of the bible that he left this ancient history book that taught me real joy peace and a future that no man or money or thrills of this world can, and believe me i tried most. If you think am talking garb then go test it and see then come back to me , be selfless not selfish and have a opened mind and heart for good.
How come no one in this thread asked what the major flaw of this study? He says it's about HUMANS. No, it wasn't. It was about MEN only. Dude. How can you stand up there and preach about happiness for humans when you're only studying MALES? Stupid Stupid Stupid. Invalid research.
It is so funny that you assume I am male. I deliberately did not state my gender to see whether you would do that. I did not say women are not intelligent and I did not say that women ONLY faced baby raising stresses. There are multiple stresses that both women and men faced. For instance women certainly faced discrimination back then. I did not use any means of insults or target you as a person. Yet your argument has a stance of attack. So I wont be continuing my input because I dont deserve to be attacked for my opinion. This is a public forum to openly discuss topics without rudeness. However I don't feel that I can engage in such an interaction with you and sadly so. And yes, I am female.
I am 71 years old and am well aware of the stresses facing both men and women back when this study began 75 years ago. There were other stresses that intelligent, goal-focused, and not baby-focused women faced. Please just view the life histories of women like Ruth Bader Ginsburg and all the opposition she faced in the public and private sector to pursue her intellectual, academic and professional goals. I'm not asking anyone to go backwards - that's ridiculous of you to assume that was what I was seeking. I came up during that period, too, and I wanted to pursue a much higher course of study - and had little to no support from anyone to do that. Nor the financial means. I'll tell you more about stresses for women. And not all baby-focused women wanted to stay at home and feel their minds wasting away. Your remarks are solicitous and patronizing. Think like an intelligent woman back in the 1950s and how you might have responded to not being supported, at the least, and being actively ignored and forbidden to move forward with your intellectual pursuits. A O, in other words, grab some empathy and compassion on your way out my door. I AM open-minded. You, sir, are NOT.
Because back then it was common for males to work and therefore must face a range of stresses that women did not BACK THEN. And please be open minded and listen, just listen rather than just focus on why women arent included in every aspect and hunt for where women arent included. They did ask the wives to join. They cant go backwards and find women participants and study them for 75years but they can make valid amendents without altering the variables which then makes the overall research invalid So I respect that.
I have to desagree, being alone or cut unhealthy/toxic poeple including friends, family and coworkers is WAY more positive and healthier than force onself being around people who don't have anything constructive or positive to contribute to your live. Most Poeple are toxic, I rather be around animals.
What makes human life most happy and healthy ?
Money or fame ? The answer is definite no.
Then what is it? According to 75 year long study at Harvard, the answer is Good Relationship with the people around you, be it your wife, friend or colleagues.
Certainly good relationship with someone just a click away at you finger tip might be also a valuable key to make your life happier in this modern culture of the cyber world.
How can we build up a friendly community globally. This is what I seriously want to hear about from Professor Robert Waldinger.
He could have spoken his truth in less than five minutes. I hate when people trespass on my patience by unnecessarily drawing out their presentation. Sometimes they think it makes the message more impressive. Get to the damn point! Nor did he need a 75-year study to arrive at his conclusions. Any psychiatrist, any wise preacher, any really intelligent older person could have told us the same thing. I also found the sanctimonious tone offensive.
What keeps us healthy and happy? It is funny that the study is not advocating about working out throughout the journey life to build stamina, strength, strong bodies, and eating properly to be healthy, youthful and happy. The reason being is that as we age, our bodies need lots of training and conditioning just to keep up with walking, running, dancing, being flexible, singing, talking, bending, squatting, swimming, moving, learning to deal with our shortcomings, etc.... On top of that, the element of fun, a relationship with God or a Divine Being which could help tremendously and to keep us energized through time, were not mentioned.
I’m 16 years old, and my mum always tells me that if we put enough positive energy out into the world (on the whole contributing to the planet and yourself) good people and opportunities will come your way.
There is only one person who is always going to be with you, every moment of your life. Its YOU. There is no better relationship than the relationship you have with your self. Love your self, achieve all the goals you want to, earn all the money you want to, travel around the world and be happy. If you want to have someone in your life, have them on your own terms, don't just get into relationship or friendship with anyone just because you are alone. Use your brain and make a smart decision while choosing people to surround yourself.
I couldn't finish it. He spent the first half bragging about this study w/o saying a fucking word about what it found. terrible waste of time so far, if that is an indicator of what is to follow, there are better things to watch
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As a child, there was a portrait in our family home in Paris that I always loved. Today, it’s known as Maya with Doll – but to me it was just a portrait of my mother, albeit a remarkable one. “Your grandfather was a painter,” she would say, whenever the subject of the canvas, one of many that hung around the house, came up in discussion. It was only when I began school, and whispers about my heritage started to follow me, that I realised what an understatement that was. My grandfather was far more than a painter. He was the defining figure of 20th-century art – and, as I would learn later from years of academic study, a true genius. It was a revelation that would shape the course of my life in many ways. When Picasso died – in 1973, the year before I was born – he left behind 45,000 works, not to mention personal objects and correspondence.