What keeps us happy and healthy as we go through life? If you think it's fame and money, you're not alone – but, according to psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, you're mistaken. As the director of 75-year-old study on adult development, Waldinger has unprecedented access to data on true happiness and satisfaction. In this talk, he shares three important lessons learned from the study as well as some practical, old-as-the-hills wisdom on how to build a fulfilling, long life.
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6:33 on this note prophet muhummed told us Muslims that, keeping good ties of kinship is a means of attaining long life
عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَنْ سَرَّهُ أَنْ يُبْسَطَ لَهُ فِي رِزْقِهِ أَوْ يُنْسَأَ لَهُ فِي أَثَرِهِ فَلْيَصِلْ رَحِمَهُ
1961 صحيح البخاري كتاب البيوع باب من أحب البسط في الرزق
2557 صحيح مسلم كتاب البر والصلة والآداب باب صلة الرحم وتحريم قطيعتها
nas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever is pleased to have his provision expanded and his life span extended, then he should keep good ties of kinship.”
Source: saheeh al-bulgaria 1961 & saheeh Muslim 2557
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
(Its authenticity agreed upon according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
If Americans could have less stress, less work hours and generally better quality of life, we can focus more on relationships.
Our politicians have us working so hard in order to pay the taxes so we can police the world and send aid to everyone else we don't have the time to relax.
WHAT MAKES A GOOD LIFE?
(Watch video in English)
Hvad giver det lykkelige liv? Det har et hold forskere undersøgt igennem folks hele liv i 75 år (verdens længste undersøgelse) og undersøgelsen pågår stadigvæk.
Det er ej rigdom og berømmelse der gør os mest lykkelige, men menneskelige relationer.
Jo bedre og flere relationer vi har, jo mindre føles fysisk smerte, hukommelsestab bliver mindre som ældre og vi lever i så fald længere (end folk som har færre og dårligere relationer der dør yngre: læs; ensomhed dræber).
CITAT på baggrund af ovenstående:
》'Der er ikke tid, så kort er livet,
Til skænderier, undskyldninger, og hjertesorg at bære.
Der er kun tid til kærlighed,
Og endda til det, kun et øjeblik.'《
(Citat fra video med undertekster på dansk)
I've experienced loneliness a lot in my life and I've tried to tell like my ex how important it is to not be alone or lonely all the time this just proves it but it also tells me I'm 45 and I'm going to be dying quite Young and yeah it's painful to be lonely. Truly a remarkable and most awesome study that they have done Harvard just amazing & what a gift to share to help people know such a important factor .. Harvard itruly is a college that's honorable and most brilliant Ted Talk ever truly my favorite
I like ur voice. Very calming and gentle face you have. Im 23, i spend all my time training martial arts and school. I fear that i belong in the group that will loose health and function earlier, i feel lonely but i dont wanna be with the people i know at the given moment, sometimes but the rest of the time im longing for something im not even sure exits.
Maybe,the study has gone somewhere on the way. There is no proof to show that living away from others is bad for a happy, healthy life. In fact, it is the other way around:those that live all alone in their exclusive dimension are said to be much more creative, healthy and happy.
Wonderful & thank you.
There is an interesting link of this findings mentioned in the Bhagwad Gita too -
adhiṣṭhānaḿ tathā kartā
karaṇaḿ ca pṛthag-vidham
vividhāś ca pṛthak ceṣṭā
daivaḿ caivātra pañcamam
Translation of Bhagavad Gita 18.14
अधिष्ठानं तथा कर्ता करणं च पृथग्विधम्।
विविधाश्च पृथक्चेष्टा दैवं चैवात्र पञ्चमम्।।18.14।।
yes that's true and it is possible - subject to these 5 factors ...!!
Always overseeing the big question - why? Why even care about a happy life? There is zero meaning to life in general and if one doesn’t wish to invent meaning to deal with it one is bound to live in misery. People then say: “Well, do this and that, and then you won’t feel like that about life”. But the again. WHY? The quote “ignorance is bliss” applies here because people would rather do something to overcome a depressive state than realize that this is the state of highest possible consciousness. This state, where nothing matters and one wishes to die is the state when one understands the wholeness of everything and the meaninglessness of this little universe with such ambitious people to go through a meaningless cycle to get to the same end.
What if the individual lives in a totalitariabin society, where family values and all social interaction is controlled by a state? Sorry, but your study which took you decades to complete does not comply globally
Anyone who did not know what the outcome, e.g. good relationships are crucial, is either dump, ignorant, uninformed or doesn't reflect about his life...so the added value(lessons learnt) , tends towards zero...
Well let's assume Waldinger is right, he's still talking from patterns and bell-curves. My point is there are plenty of outliers, like my grandfather that lived well and cheerfully into his 90's and he was not a lovey-dovey relationship type guy, but a stoic and laconic. If not having a deep abiding partnership filled with warm love and support when your 50-ish, means then Heaven help most of us that are already doomed 30 years before our 80's. We'll just have to make the best of it then.
I had a feeling that bad relationships caused memory loss. My theory was that these people choose to forget quickly as a coping mechanism to stop the prolonged agony of remembering their bitter memories.
Basically, there are only two issues in the human nature. It boils down into two categories. One, the degree of comfort in life. Two, the degree of happiness in life. How we react to it? How we handle about it? The choice and the decisions is ours to execute by ourselves alone. CONSIDER THIS!!!
What a great speaker! He connects with the audience in such a humble and sweet way. Not to mention that this study is a lesson that shows us how important it is to do what humans used to do best, socialize.
People will follow you when you have money, status and success. It's the poor people and low status that always end up alone. Your number one priority in life should be having financial success and social status. Actually, even people who were famous and rich can end up alone when they lose their wealth and fame, that goes to show you this harsh truth.
I have pretty bad depression because of the lack of meaningful relationships in my life and the lack of stability in the ones I do have. People seem to disappear really quickly when they gain a partner. Which makes me more and more desperate to find a romantic partner myself. I wonder if society wasn’t constantly telling me how important relationships are, if I would still feel this burning need to have one and if I would still be depressed
Hello friends, Life is too short already.....just do not give up life. What can we do after we die ??? Not a thing we can do. We can not talk or see anything, ok. Only when WE alive and well then we can do MANY THINGS THAT is for yourselves and your family. I know very well there many bad people out there. So, we must have Common senses and knowledges from getting Rip off, ok friends....want some advices let me know ok.....✌️😇👨👩👧👦
What I learned:
Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Lesson from social relationships:
* Social connections are reallu good for us and the loneliness kills.
* Is not just the number of firends you haveand it's not whether or not you are in committed relationship, but it's the quality of your close relationships that matters.
* Good relationships don't just protect our bodies, they protect our brains.
Amen I love being alone. And have very few people I want to socialize with . But there are a few I like. Most people are now into the virtual world and not interested in anything more than very quick causal interactions with others. Even older people are in intercourse with their smart phones 24/7 .
I love people and I see them as an extension of my family and I treat everyone like brother/sister/mom/dad etc. I do not linger in relationships that are not healthy. I move on quickly and I do not look back.
Bottom line of the study: Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. The study does not tell us why some people develop these relationships while others don't. Is it luck? Is it an innate need? Is it due to ambition or a lack of ambition? Is it due to good physical health or a positive outlook on life?
What might be more interesting to learn from this study? How about for the people that did not live into their 80's, why did they die? Could it have been prevented. For those that made into their 80s, but are not happy, why aren't they happy? Could they have done something different?
No women in this study? I guess since it was established so long ago it was unlikely, but I would imagine we can reinstate a new study like this, or even use Facebook or social media data to do.something like this currently. But with current Technology we should be able to do something like this now, to start a new one that will at least help people in the future.
Nice to hear the women involved in their life participated though (as I am listening to this video)
Hmmm.... there’s a dilemma here: honor, integrity, justice - The qualities that make me a decent person and the type who my wife, family, and others can depend on no matter what. The same qualities intrinsically require me to take a distance from assholes and people with bad morals acting dispicably. Some of these people are gatekeepers of my community in a sense, or relatives. Therefore I’ve become socially very limited. Becoming social tends to = losing my good qualities.
monitored the life of 7 men to study the algorithm of happiness... why only men? what a fucking waste of a potentially remarkable study... seems like it just makes the conclusion of the study less credible right off that bat
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As a child, there was a portrait in our family home in Paris that I always loved. Today, it’s known as Maya with Doll – but to me it was just a portrait of my mother, albeit a remarkable one. “Your grandfather was a painter,” she would say, whenever the subject of the canvas, one of many that hung around the house, came up in discussion. It was only when I began school, and whispers about my heritage started to follow me, that I realised what an understatement that was. My grandfather was far more than a painter. He was the defining figure of 20th-century art – and, as I would learn later from years of academic study, a true genius. It was a revelation that would shape the course of my life in many ways. When Picasso died – in 1973, the year before I was born – he left behind 45,000 works, not to mention personal objects and correspondence.